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There’s this ridiculous, antiquated, and dangerous idea everywhere in the recovery system: Fix your past. Work through your trauma. Get stable. Get healthy. THEN, you’ll stop drinking. Then you’ll stop using. Then you can start building your life. Sounds right. Logical. It isn’t. There is NO evidence whatsoever that shows that even if you: go to therapy work through your past get in shape build support and connection “do everything right.” That these things will help you stop

I’ve been noticing something lately that doesn’t quite make sense to me. And I think part of it is because my dad died this year… And my mom is on her way. So death isn’t some abstract idea right now. It’s… right here. When I’m sitting alone, in my head, thinking about it— Not existing. Just… gone. It scares the hell out of me. Like a deep, almost panicky kind of fear. But here’s the part I can’t reconcile. If I picture a real situation— A client of mine in danger. Someone tr